Sustaining a Loving Relationship - Part 5

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                                                     Be Attentive & Be You

 Being in a relationship implies caring about the solace and satisfaction of your mate on all levels. If you truly want to satisfy your mate, this means attentiveness to all aspects of the relationship, both in, and out of, the bedroom.  

Be thoughtful. Nothing is quite as appreciated as knowing your mate wants to spend time with you. Make yourself available for conversation or run errands with one another. Conveying the notion that you wish to spend time with your mate renders a great deal of emotional gratification.

Learn the little things your mate likes. If your mate loves a cup of hot tea in the morning, brew some tea. If your mate likes to curl up in a preferred chair for a noon nap, cover her with a blanket. Little courtesies like these may make your mate very pleased with the quality of the relationship.

Keep yourself clean. While this may appear obvious, the fact is a lot of individuals want a kiss first thing in the morning, despite bad breath. Slipping out of bed and brushing your teeth prior to gently kissing the lips of your mate may sweeten the experience and lead to a few pleasant activity. Take a shower while you're up.

Ask your mate what he likes. Most women have particular locations on the body that they love to have touched or fondled. Your mate might love the sensation of your hand on the small of the back or the touch of your lips on the nape of the neck. Discover what they like and how they like it. Both of you will be fulfilled with the results.


Carry the attentiveness into the bedroom. Sex is a crucial aspect of most relationships. Assorted types of sexual activity appeal to different people. Learn what your mate enjoys and be pleased to comply. The result will be a mate who is pleased with you in, and out of, the bedroom.

Be truthful. Nothing may kill a relationship like telling lies. If you are caught in a lie, it weakens everything your mate thinks about you and impacts every aspect of the relationship. Trustfulness goes a long way in keeping your mate fulfilled. Trust is the bond of all relationships. Sometimes the smallest lies pull a partnership apart. Trust your relationship to be honest. This is the cornerstone of a successful relationship.

 * Todd Deutsch is the owner and lead licensed Marriage Family Therapist & Life Coach for Complete Game Plan located in West Los Angeles adjacent to Century City.

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