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Sustaining a Loving Relationship Part 2

Emotions are the glue that associates you to others and gives meaning to life. They're the foundation of your power to comprehend yourself and relate to other people.

When you're aware and in command of your emotions, you are able to think clearly and creatively; manage stress and challenges; communicate well with other people; and display trust, empathy, and self-confidence. However lose command of your emotions, and you’ll spin into mental confusion, isolation, and negativity. By realizing and ruling your emotions you'll be able to gain command over the way you respond to challenges, better your communication skills, and savor more fulfilling relationships. This is the power of formulating emotional awareness.

                                       Your Emotions

Whether we’re cognizant of them or not, emotions are a ceaseless presence in our lives, influencing everything we accomplish. Emotional awareness means recognizing what you're feeling and why. It’s the ability to identify and express what you're feeling from minute to minute and to comprehend the connection between your feelings and your behaviors. Emotional awareness likewise allows you to comprehend what other people are feeling and to understand them.

Emotional awareness demands the power to:
  • ·  Understand your moment-to-moment emotional experience

  • ·  Cope with all of your emotions without getting overwhelmed

Have you ever felt like depression, nervousness, or anger was commanding you? Do you frequently act impulsively, doing or stating things you know you shouldn’t, only to regret it afterwards? Do you feel unplugged from your feelings or emotionally dead? 
Do you have a difficult time communicating with other people and making meaningful connections? Do you feel like your life is an emotional rollercoasterall extremes and no equilibrium? All of these roadblocks and challenges are related to a break up in emotional awareness.

Our emotions, not our thoughts, propel us. Without an awareness of what you’re feeling, it’s impossible to fully comprehend your own actions, appropriately cope with your emotions and actions, and precisely “read” the wants and needs of other people.

Emotional awareness assists you in:
  • ·  Recognizing who you are: what you like, what you don’t like, and what you require
  • ·  Comprehend and empathize with other people
  • ·  Communicate distinctly and effectively
  • ·  Make sensible choices based on the things that are most crucial
    to you
  • ·  Become motivated and take action to fulfill goals
  • ·  Construct strong, healthy, and rewarding relationships. 
                                                 Impacting Fear

Fear of something awful happening in the future is among the things that make us human.

Animals may fear an immediate danger, that's occurring right now, however only we fear something that may occur, that isn’t occurring now, that isn’t even displaying its ugly face at the minute.

This fear, a few may say, is essential ... it stops us from doing something unintelligent. However I’ve found most of these fears to be unneeded, to be groundless, to be holding us back from accomplishing something. 

Do you have the fear that you’re not good enough?

However here’s the thing: having the fear is natural. Letting it stop you from going after your dreams is a tragedy.

There has no bit-by-bit program to beating out your fears, however here’s what I’ve learned, first-hand and from other people.

1st, acknowledge your fear. This is a large first step. If you do simply this now, you’ve done something great. A lot of us have these fears, however they're at the back of our brain, unnoticed, unacknowledged, as we attempt to ignore them and pretend they’re not there. However they are there. And they impact us, daily, all our lives. So recognize the fear.

Write it down. What’s your concern? Put it on a sheet of paper. Writing it down not only recognizes that you have it - bringing it forward - however it externalizes the fear. Take command over it by writing it down. It's now outside you. You are able to do something about it.

Feel the fear. You’ve recognized it; however you’re still afraid of it. Understand that you’re not unaccompanied, that we ALL have these concerns, that we all think we may not be good enough. Repeat after me: there’s nothing bad with having this fear. Now let yourself to feel it.

Ask yourself: what’s the worst thing that can occur? Frequently it’s not as awful as we think. Do you fear failing in your relationship? What would occur if you did? You’d lick your wounds, you’d find somebody else who's more suited for you, you’d live.

Simply do it. Feel the fear and do it anyhow. To beat the fear, you have to simply do it.

Be in the moment. Fear of failure is fears of the future tense. We get caught up in fretting about what may occur. Alternatively, banish all thoughts of the future. Banish even thoughts of past errors and failures. Now center on right now. Do something right now to crush your fears, to pursue your ambitions, and forget about what may occur.

Little steps. Conquering fear and following up on a goal may be overwhelming, daunting. So start little. Simply take one little step. Something you know you are able to do. Then feel great about that and take another little step. Keep doing this, and before long you’ll have conquered more than you can imagine.

Celebrate each success! Even the lowliest little thing. And use this feeling of triumph, to propel yourself forward and take the next step. 


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